De-Linked

I think I have been de-linked.

I'm not sure how much of her post is supposed to apply to me, but it seems the whole thing is just meant to insult people, so I have answered accordingly.

Hey, I went ahead and made a semi-interesting post out of it though, just to be different.

Someone, who ranted about “blog etiquette” and how rude some bloggers are, has rudely missed the etiquette boat. If you decide de-link someone, just de-link them. Don’t make a big deal about it. There is no reason to point out the de-linked blogger's every (perceived) flaw. Taking 1,700 words to justify the de-linkings, making some very pointed comments so people can’t help but recognize their blogs in the description, and haranguing them in public for not meeting your expectations is rude and uncalled for in my book.

To tell the truth, I never would have notice I was de-linked. Why? Because I don’t go checking to see who keeps me linked. I also never would have cared about being de-linked, even if I had noticed. Why? Because I don’t have a vested interest in you reading my blog. I didn’t ask to be linked in the first place. And, I’ve been de-linked by some of the best, Venomous Kate and DaGoddess to name a couple – they didn’t see the need to make it public though.

But, you went and made the de-linking personal; attacking bloggers that you de-linked. The attack was for no good reason, other than to make yourself feel good – to show us that you were more interesting, and (bizarrely) more caring than we are.

Is your blog all about 'you'

In case you didn’t notice, the header states “The Life and Times of Bogie”. That means that it is “all about me” (and by extension, WS), as you so snidely suggest it shouldn’t be (because God knows you were assigned to the blogging police). Additionally, my blog is to keep in touch with family members who, by the way, may be interested when there are sinus troubles. Strange as this may seem to you, you are not the target audience of my blog, so I do not strive to write things that interest you, or make you laugh, or make you forget yourself. In short, I did not take a poll on what you wanted me to write because I am not blogging for you. This blog IS NOT about you. So get over yourself and your expectation that I cater to you.

Do you have Aids...Cancer?

If that is the test for having a blog, or of things that should be written about, then there are millions of people that should not be writing anything at all.

but if you have a cold...or sinus problems or an allergy...puleeze DO NOT BORE US WITH THE DETAILS

As for not being interested in my hubby’s problems, well I understand that. You are not my friend. If you were, you would be interested in the problems like that. Being a friend does not mean you are only there for the big things in life (that is called being a martyr – and expecting to be noticed as a martyr), but that you are there for the little joys and sadnesses too. Additionally, if you are not interested, JUST SKIP TO THE NEXT POST. It’s not that tough to press the Page Down button or even close the page.

Don't get me wrong...when there are 'real' complaints and there are a lot of people in the world who have 'REAL' problems

Oh, can I have that list of the “Real” (and by extension, “important”) problems? I must have missed that memo. That you cannot understand that migraines can be debilitating and you can’t “just take an aspirin” for them is just sad. (Disclaimer: I have no idea who has the migraines that are mentioned in the post). To not understand that the illness of a pet can be very upsetting is to have no empathy (another disclaimer – I don’t know who that was about either). Then there is the fact that I have no intention of sharing the really important things on my blog. Some people do, that is their decision. If it is really, really important, then I am keeping it to myself or among a select few – not to the world in general.

As for thinking I care why you don’t visit any more, not really. I don’t get visited by portions of my immediate family, or WS’s immediate family so I know that this blog is, how do you so “politely” term it (because you are big on politeness according to your post) – boring. If I can get over the fact that family doesn’t want to visit, I’m sure the lack of your presence will not overwhelm me.

They never visit other bloggers...never leave comments...and never reply to comments

Just because I don’t leave comments on every post doesn’t mean I haven’t visited. I visit lots of blogs of which the writers never visit me – indeed, many of them don’t even know I visit on a regular basis because I don’t demand their attention. I visit, I read, I smile or chuckle or groan or whatever, then I leave. I don’t have to comment just as I don’t talk much in real life. When I do comment, I don’t expect a personalized note back. Everyone is busy and unless I ask a specific question there is no expectation on my part of a back-and-forth conversation.

And another point, just because you started visiting my blog does not actually obligate me to visit your blog. So excuse me if I don’t validate every comment you have made or leave a comment every time I visit.

I started writing for me..but I noticed as time went on...I was blogging for people I didn't even know. How stupid is that?

And the ironic part – after you have lambasted me and other bloggers about how we have disappointed you in what we chose to write about, about how “self serving” and “boring” we are, you turn around and explain why you will only be writing about things that you care about – not what you think others want to read about. How are you being different than those of us that you have de-linked? Other than we were already smart enough not to even try to cater to others’ whims and wishes.

Comments

[Wichi Dude]

Hmmmm...now let me get this straight..."web log", ie. "blog", a "personal journal on-line", is NOT about the person and all their little thoughts?

WOW! I missed a memo somewhere. I thought that is what a blog was all about, writing what was happening in your world and how you felt about it. I never knew I was supposed to be writing about things that made other people happy and that I wasn't allowed to whine when I felt like it.

I am sorry and will correct my ways immediately...NOT!!!

I love it when a brain-fart goes to script. The moon-bats have launched. hehehe

[Bogie]

Hey, while you are writing things to make me happy, I demand that you post more often - because I just know your blog is just for Me, me, me - LOL

[Cop Car]

Thanks for the chuckle, Bogie. Those of us who care about you and WS find the whole thing a hoot! (But then, we have warped senses of humor, no?)

[Wichi Dude]

Really. I plan on doing something soon. Just been a bit busy with therapy and stuff. If I hadn't been told of this post, I wouldn't have seen it either.

[bod]

i really like reading about the life and times of bogie, i don't always comment but it's kind of nice to read it.
it makes you feel like a neighbour (with much better control of her garden than me!)

[DCE]

About the only time I de-link anyone is when their blog goes dormant for more than a few months. The only exception is when they tell us that they'll no longer be posting but are leaving their archives in place (Steven Den Beste being one of those). In many cases their past posts are still relevant so they stay linked with a little post script saying 'Archives'. When I de-link blogs due to inactivity, I usually say so in a post that I use to update the blogroll with new finds, moved links, etc.

The only other time I have de-linked someone was when they requested it (a moonbat extreme left-wing blogger asked that I take their blog off of my 'Noisy Left' links, and I obliged them).

[buffy]

Oh, heck! The computer must have swallowed ANOTHER memo....

I didn't realize I was supposed to be bored when I read your blog. Could you go back and delete dozens of comments from me that might lead people to think I was having a good time here? I wouldn't want my image tarnished!

At the moment, you are all de-linked on my blog. Not because I don't love you any more, but because we are a work in revision. RedEagleSpirit has upgraded the Moveable Type software, so there's tons of work to do, recreating templates and tweaking the program. I told T to do mine last, because I was contemplating a change of skins. Unfortunately, I didn't realize my links were down. If I'm absent from your blog, just tell the snotty one that someone else has de-linked you.

Thanks for the laugh, Bogie!

[Bogie]

WS - Hope the PT is going well!

Cop Car - Warped? Us? no, tell me it isn't so.

Bod - I visit you often but rarely leave a comment becuase you have such lovely thoughts that I can't seem to come up with any words!

[Bogie]

DCE - I've de-linked some people. But like you, mainly because their sites have gone quiete for a length of time. I have also de-linked a couple of people that seemed to go totally bizarro - but I didn't see the need to tell them so. I figured if they noticed, and cared enough, tht they could email me and I would explain then - I never had anyone ask about it though.

Bufy - knew we adopted you into the family for some reason - it must be your exquisit taste in blog reading. LOL!