Christmas Grinch

Some people where the Wonderful Spouse works are upset with me. It's not something I did, rather something I didn't do.

See, they didn't get Christmas cards this year and it's all my fault because I didn't make them out. WS tried to explain that it was his responsibility, but he couldn't get into the mood and didn't make them out, but they weren't buying it. "But my wife made out our cards", was the standard reply.

Sorry, I'm not your wife. I also have a job that keeps me away from home 11-12 hours a day - if I have no pet-sitting duties to tend to. I also take responsibility for getting cards to my customers, our friends, my co-workers, my family and "distant" in-laws (aunts/uncles, nieces/nephews). WS has the responsibility of getting cards for his immediate family and making out cards to his co-workers (I keep a ready stock of various Christmas cards he only has to get cards for his family).

Then of course, there is the day-to-day running of the household. Sure, I have all kinds of time to make out cards to WS's co-workers.

But that is beside the point. Why in hell do people assume that it should be my responsibility?

Comments

[Cop Car]

I hear you. It's your fault for the same reason that a dirty house is always the woman's fault--or the unironed clothes--or the unmade meals--ad nauseum. Happily, HH takes part in all of those chores (well, except the cooking part), but anyone who doesn't know this still assumes that I've fallen down on the job if something is late being performed. Since WS's co-workers assume that the cards are your responsibility, it's only fair that you be allowed to assume that they are unthinking jackasses.

[Jay]

Heh. I agree. It is the same with thank you notes being not only obligatory, but also "the wife's job."

We ended up not getting around to those until it came time for Christmas, so we combined them with Christmas cards. We both worked on it, and it wouldn't have all been done otherwise. Ended up sending 54 cards, probably half with thank you notes, and several more cards for clients.

People are funny.

[nicola]

misogynist pigs?

[billy]

...feel free to assume that the reason you didn't get a card from us here is because I'm a bit crap :^)...